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Reblogged from barbidreamdumpster

barbidreamdumpster:

bi visibility day falls on the autumnal equinox this year and, as we all know, catching sight of an elusive bisexual on the equinox will ensure a bountiful harvest

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Reblogged from lyricalred

reminder for bisexuals

lyricalred:

today is bi visibility day. as such, bisexual people will be completely visible for the next 24 hours. this is a bad day to engage in bank heists, ghost impersonations, covert operations for vague yet menacing government agencies, and other common bisexual hobbies that rely upon our powers of invisibility. 

reblog to save a life. 

(via illegaltits)

Reblogged from bidyke
bidyke:

bidyke:

[Image: a white kitten with a worried look on her face, on a bi-colors grunge background, with a grungy black frame. Large text: “Does YOUR cat know ABOUT the BISEXUAL MOVEMENT?”. Small text: “* The potential hazards of the bisexual movement may include confusion, glitter, sluttiness, unicorns, and permanent damage to patriarchy”.](Note: the word “sluttiness” is used in the most fabulous context possible)

It’s Bisexual Visibility week. Make sure to talk to your cat about bisexuality!

bidyke:

bidyke:

[Image: a white kitten with a worried look on her face, on a bi-colors grunge background, with a grungy black frame. Large text: “Does YOUR cat know ABOUT the BISEXUAL MOVEMENT?”. Small text: “* The potential hazards of the bisexual movement may include confusion, glitter, sluttiness, unicorns, and permanent damage to patriarchy”.]

(Note: the word “sluttiness” is used in the most fabulous context possible)

It’s Bisexual Visibility week. Make sure to talk to your cat about bisexuality!

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Reblogged from geekpsyche

Biphobia and Monosexism are making me sad… (Wall of Text)

atreeisatree:

geekpsyche:

Another rare personal post, because I am so disappointed in what has been happening lately on some of my previously favorite blogs and now within some tags that should be safe spaces to discuss issues that affect us.

I would like to believe that, by now, we all understand that biphobia is very real and very harmful.  Anyone who wants to argue that point, please go ahead and excuse yourself from this conversation now, because I don’t have time to educate you on basic concepts.

However, there has been a lot of discussion and arguing and confusion about what monosexism is and whether it is real.  For my blog, I am going to assert that it *is* absolutely real, and I am going to define it in my terms so that anyone reading my posts knows exactly what I mean when I use it, or when I repost something that uses the concept.

When I use the term monosexism, I am referring to a specific type of aggression that falls under the umbrella of bi/pan/poly-phobia.  That specific type of aggression is the one designed to uphold a societal structure of a (false) dichotomy of gender-based attraction.  When a lesbian doesn’t want to date a bi woman because she is “icky” after having been with men - that is biphobia.  When a lesbian dates a bi woman and insists she now call herself a lesbian, because identifying as bi would mean she’s looking to cheat - that is a monosexist expression of biphobia.  When people who are attracted to multiple genders are told they need to “choose a side,” that is an monosexist expression upholding binary categories of attraction.  And people who are attracted to only one gender are benefited by this structure in a way that multi-sexual and multi-romantic orientations are not.

Now, monosexist beliefs and actions are absolutely the trickle-down result of heterosexist institutional structures, but to call them heterosexist would be to imply that they are only upheld by heterosexuals, and that is not true.  While the MOGAI community does not have the same institutional power to oppress individuals within the community, some can and do absolutely enact hotstility, violence, and abuse against individuals they see as a threat to their acceptance within society as a whole.  And while the straight community is by far the worst offender, biphobic and monosexist actions by people within the MOGAI community are often coming from people we think will be “safe,” and can be wounding in a different and deeper way.

I understand there have been additional critiques of the monosexism concept as racist or transphobic, but I am having difficulty locating detailed discussions of these critiques, and would like to understand them better.  If anyone would like to point me toward some additional information, it would be greatly appreciated!

I’ve seen a few posts talking about monosexism being anti-black here and here. Here’s another post calling it a dilution of anti-oppression discourse, which I also agree with.

I disagree that monosexism exists in a meaningful way or that it’s a necessary framework for talking about biphobia. I’ve expressed my views about it a lot in my bi tag, but I just wanted to point out a few things about your post. First, heterosexism doesn’t imply that only straight people are biphobic. (Or rather, I suppose this is a common misconception, but the point is that it’s false.) Heterosexism just refers to the structure that privileges straight sexualities/desires/relationships, etc. All non-straight sexualities/desires/relationships are marginalized, and they’re not all marginalized in the same way, although a lot of it interconnects. When straight people are being heterosexist, they are engaging in vertical oppression because they as straight people benefit from heterosexism, and they are the only group that benefits directly, as a class, from heterosexism.

HOWEVER, non-straight people can collude with heterosexism by being either biphobic or homophobic/lesbophobic. This is called lateral or horizontal aggression, because it’s heterosexist aggression taking place between people who are both oppressed by heterosexism. Are bi people hurt by biphobia in a way gay people aren’t? Sure. And lesbians are hurt by lesbophobia in a way bi women aren’t. We can both try to use these things to our own advantages. However, both biphobia and lesbophobia lend power to heterosexism, which is ultimately what generates and gives institutional power to biphobia AND lesbophobia, so ultimately we’re giving power to something that hurts us. It’s lateral aggression within the oppressive structure of heterosexism. I think that’s the best way biphobia is understood: as an aspect of heterosexism that is vertical oppression from straight people and lateral aggression from gay people.

Just some few other points: I’m wondering if you’re aware that one of the people responsible for popularizing “monosexism” actually says the reverse about the relationships between monosexism and biphobia: that biphobia is an aspect of monosexism. I don’t agree with that either, but I have noticed a lot of inconsistency in how this is used. As for you: if biphobia is the overarching phenomenon, why exactly is it necessary to label some things as “monosexist”? If your main motivation is to find a word that describes biphobia from gay people, I hope lateral aggression will work for you.

You also talk about a “societal structure of a (false) dichotomy of gender-based attraction.” I agree that the belief that we should only like one gender is part of biphobia. Heterosexism states that we should only like one gender and that it needs to be the opposite gender, so we’re marginalized for failing to comply. However, I disagree that ‘the gay-straight dichotomy’ exists as, like, an oppressive structure. Let me compare it to the gender binary/dualism that says that there are only two genders, these genders are men and women, and that women are inferior to men. This is an actual structural, oppressive binary, both because it marginalizes women and because it denies the existence of non-binary people (and especially seeks to destroy trans women & non-binary people of color). But note that the binary necessitates the existence of “woman” as a valid category: heteropatriarchy does not make sense without a category of “woman” - even though we are defined against men as lacking - because the binary man/woman categories, like, are fundamental to the whole structuring of gender.

This isn’t true for the ‘gay-straight dichotomy’: it’s not an inherent part of how normative sexuality is structured. Men and women have been socially demanded to pair up for a long time, before the modern concepts of “homosexuality” and “heterosexuality” even came into existence. This structuring of sexuality does not depend on the existence and validation of a “gay” category. (If you look at the most heterosexist straight people, they don’t even believe that gay orientation is a real thing!) “Gay” only emerged recently as a single alternative to “straight,” which had to define itself specifically only when an alternative presented itself. However, the fact that gay people have become more present in public awareness doesn’t create, like, an oppressive binary for sexuality. It’s just a lag in public (and I mostly mean “straight”) awareness of non-straight people. I also feel like gay people have received more ~awareness~ from straight society in large part because they are hypervisible, and therefore subject to public scrutiny, which isn’t reaaaaally a positive thing, but it does have the “benefit” of the dominant class being more aware of you (and perhaps also sparked earlier community formation/participation).

IN ANY CASE my point is that there isn’t really an oppressive sexuality binary that gay people structurally benefit from that we need to liberate ourselves from or whatever. The idea that people “should only like one gender”… isn’t that. I think when gay people do this, they are colluding with heterosexism in an attempt to validate themselves within heterosexism (which is a pretty self-defeating strategy), and when straight people say this… like I don’t actually believe they mean it. I think they are conditionally “validating” gay orientation in order to invalidate bi orientation, and if it suits them better they will turn around and conditionally validate the idea that people shouldn’t limit themselves by gender (essentially to be bi) in order to invalidate gay orientation. Anything else - like people commonly talking about “gay marriage” or stuff like that - is I think a combination of hypervisiblity of gay people and ignorance about the existence of other non-straight people.

Thank you for reblogging with thoughtful commentary.  I won’t have much time to discuss further for a few days, but I would like to continue the conversation - do you mind continuing this discussion after a brief hiatus? 

Anonymous said: It is so interesting how your critique of the harm 'monosexuals' inflict upon bisexual women focuses almost exclusively on lesbians. Even though there is no statistical evidence suggesting that lesbians are the main perpetrators in this regard. It's almost as though you're trying to conceal your lesbophobia beneath a thin veil of 'radical queer' rhetoric, with no regard for the realities of bi women, whose abuse comes overwhelmingly at the hands of men.

"The realities of bi women" is an interesting phrase to use, considering I am, in reality a bi woman, who is speaking about my own personal experiences. The "hypothetical" examples I used are actual events that have happened to me, and  I have personally witnessed happening to my friends on multiple occasions.  Nowhere do I claim that lesbians are the main perpetrators - they aren’t.  But they are capable of harming bi women and instead of trying to redirect me to criticize other people because they are causing more problems, how about you consider whether you are perpetrating the type of harm I am describing.  If not, then good for you - I’m not talking about you. If you are, then stop trying to hand-wave away a legitimate problem that really causes harm to actual bi people, and fix it.

Biphobia and Monosexism are making me sad… (Wall of Text)

Another rare personal post, because I am so disappointed in what has been happening lately on some of my previously favorite blogs and now within some tags that should be safe spaces to discuss issues that affect us.

I would like to believe that, by now, we all understand that biphobia is very real and very harmful.  Anyone who wants to argue that point, please go ahead and excuse yourself from this conversation now, because I don’t have time to educate you on basic concepts.

However, there has been a lot of discussion and arguing and confusion about what monosexism is and whether it is real.  For my blog, I am going to assert that it *is* absolutely real, and I am going to define it in my terms so that anyone reading my posts knows exactly what I mean when I use it, or when I repost something that uses the concept.

When I use the term monosexism, I am referring to a specific type of aggression that falls under the umbrella of bi/pan/poly-phobia.  That specific type of aggression is the one designed to uphold a societal structure of a (false) dichotomy of gender-based attraction.  When a lesbian doesn’t want to date a bi woman because she is “icky” after having been with men - that is biphobia.  When a lesbian dates a bi woman and insists she now call herself a lesbian, because identifying as bi would mean she’s looking to cheat - that is a monosexist expression of biphobia.  When people who are attracted to multiple genders are told they need to “choose a side,” that is an monosexist expression upholding binary categories of attraction.  And people who are attracted to only one gender are benefited by this structure in a way that multi-sexual and multi-romantic orientations are not.

Now, monosexist beliefs and actions are absolutely the trickle-down result of heterosexist institutional structures, but to call them heterosexist would be to imply that they are only upheld by heterosexuals, and that is not true.  While the MOGAI community does not have the same institutional power to oppress individuals within the community, some can and do absolutely enact hotstility, violence, and abuse against individuals they see as a threat to their acceptance within society as a whole.  And while the straight community is by far the worst offender, biphobic and monosexist actions by people within the MOGAI community are often coming from people we think will be “safe,” and can be wounding in a different and deeper way.

I understand there have been additional critiques of the monosexism concept as racist or transphobic, but I am having difficulty locating detailed discussions of these critiques, and would like to understand them better.  If anyone would like to point me toward some additional information, it would be greatly appreciated!

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dirtybrian:

thewitchylibrarian:

dirtybrian:

mattachinereview:


biyuti:


girljanitor:


dumbthingswhitepplsay:


popca:


dolgematki:


nativevoice:


“Stop sending expired food”….”fried chicken 64.99” 
IQALUIT, Nunavut — A head of cabbage for $20. Fifteen bucks for a small bag of apples.
A case of ginger ale: $82.
Fed up and frustrated by sky-high food prices and concerned over widespread hunger in their communities, thousands of Inuit have spent weeks posting pictures and price tags from their local grocery stores to a Facebook site called Feed My Family.
Read more: http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Canada/20120608/inuit-food-prices-protest-120608/#ixzz1xKWAJkGe


Holy hell.


WHAT IN THE FUCK? This shit is not okay.


ughhslfkajsdlf gross gross gross
64.99?????


These people are starving for a reason.
Conservationists
have been starving
these people
to death for years.


Reblogging for the extra articles. 
Also… I might show up to this protest and support them. 


Pay attention to this stuff, please, followers who haven’t heard about this!  This kind of thing is completely erased in news media.


This is really fucking important.
This is why I don’t respect anyone who blindly supports the anti-sealing protestors. Because for a lot of people, it’s the only affordable option.
It’s not just Iqaluit. In Nain, Labrador this problem has been going on for ages and nobody does anything about it. $47 for a ham and $17 for a block of cheese. In Rigolet, Labrador, a loaf of bread costs $7. Here’s another picture of an Iqaluit food price changing before your very eyes.
The NNCP is starving people, reducing their food choices, and keeping people on EI poor. This is so, so wrong.

How can we help? I joined the group and checked out the website, but I didn’t see anything that can be actively done (other than raising awareness, which, of course, is great).

Excellent question! If you read through the group (which is here, for anyone who missed it), there are people talking about some ways to help.
Look at the latest news on the Feeding My Family website to see what the priorities are and how you might be able to help.
If you’re Canadian, call your local MP and ask to discuss this issue and express your concern.
Look up ways to support putting pressure onto airlines to charge fair rates (a $1000 plane ticket should be from one coast to the other, not a few hundred miles).
Research and learn what you can about food sustainability. For a start, how about learning square foot/metre (French intensive) gardening or container gardening and starting to practice it yourself? Share these techniques with friends and family. Get good at it so you can teach them to others who have poor food security in your own area.
For the love of God, stop signing “anti-sealing”/”anti-hunting” petitions and supporting Greenpeace’s actions without understanding the complicated, nuanced situation in the North.
Watch the FB group, because people there mention direct donations and ways to help the organizations actually on the ground there.
For example, one person is starting up a donation project/fundraiser.
Look at what organizations like FoodShare are doing and support them.
There is so much to be done. Sharing news articles and stories, lists of resources, donation and fundraising pages, and knowledge about food security is critical, but there’s a lot more work of all sorts.

dirtybrian:

thewitchylibrarian:

dirtybrian:

mattachinereview:

biyuti:

girljanitor:

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

popca:

dolgematki:

nativevoice:

“Stop sending expired food”….”fried chicken 64.99” 

IQALUIT, Nunavut — A head of cabbage for $20. Fifteen bucks for a small bag of apples.

A case of ginger ale: $82.

Fed up and frustrated by sky-high food prices and concerned over widespread hunger in their communities, thousands of Inuit have spent weeks posting pictures and price tags from their local grocery stores to a Facebook site called Feed My Family.

Holy hell.

WHAT IN THE FUCK? This shit is not okay.

ughhslfkajsdlf gross gross gross

64.99?????


These people are starving for a reason.

Conservationists

have been starving

these people

to death for years.

Reblogging for the extra articles. 

Also… I might show up to this protest and support them. 

Pay attention to this stuff, please, followers who haven’t heard about this!  This kind of thing is completely erased in news media.

This is really fucking important.

This is why I don’t respect anyone who blindly supports the anti-sealing protestors. Because for a lot of people, it’s the only affordable option.

It’s not just Iqaluit. In Nain, Labrador this problem has been going on for ages and nobody does anything about it. $47 for a ham and $17 for a block of cheese. In Rigolet, Labrador, a loaf of bread costs $7. Here’s another picture of an Iqaluit food price changing before your very eyes.

The NNCP is starving people, reducing their food choices, and keeping people on EI poor. This is so, so wrong.

How can we help? I joined the group and checked out the website, but I didn’t see anything that can be actively done (other than raising awareness, which, of course, is great).

Excellent question! If you read through the group (which is here, for anyone who missed it), there are people talking about some ways to help.

  • Look at the latest news on the Feeding My Family website to see what the priorities are and how you might be able to help.
  • If you’re Canadian, call your local MP and ask to discuss this issue and express your concern.
  • Look up ways to support putting pressure onto airlines to charge fair rates (a $1000 plane ticket should be from one coast to the other, not a few hundred miles).
  • Research and learn what you can about food sustainability. For a start, how about learning square foot/metre (French intensive) gardening or container gardening and starting to practice it yourself? Share these techniques with friends and family. Get good at it so you can teach them to others who have poor food security in your own area.
  • For the love of God, stop signing “anti-sealing”/”anti-hunting” petitions and supporting Greenpeace’s actions without understanding the complicated, nuanced situation in the North.
  • Watch the FB group, because people there mention direct donations and ways to help the organizations actually on the ground there.
  • For example, one person is starting up a donation project/fundraiser.
  • Look at what organizations like FoodShare are doing and support them.

There is so much to be done. Sharing news articles and stories, lists of resources, donation and fundraising pages, and knowledge about food security is critical, but there’s a lot more work of all sorts.

(Source: , via panpolymommy)

Reblogged from iwriteaboutfeminism

are2dtoo said: the marijuana in his system could have affected his reaction time, meaning that if the officer told him to turn around & he took too long to do so, the cop could have gotten impatient & shot him

rosaluxmemeburg:

bureaucraticcollectivist:

iwriteaboutfeminism:

I want you to think about what you just said.

"i’m prepared to believe anything except that the police are racist murderers"

IT’S OKAY TO KILL SOMEONE IF YOU’VE BECOME IMPATIENT WITH THEM

I’m exceptionally impatient with racists, so… open season, right?